What is love

What is love? I asked myself. When I was a child, I thought that love was only for adults and not for kids. But as time passes by and as my experience grows, I learned that love is not only for grown-ups but also for everyone who have known care and security. Love speaks a language of giving, bond, protection, happiness, empathy, and other good traits. Its characteristics and what love means has been written in the bible as stated in 1 Corinthians 13 4-8, “ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” The love in the bible is a perfect love, Agape love that means unconditional. It is the kind of love that whenever a person makes mistakes, one can still go back and be forgiven. A kind of feeling that even tremendous storms passes in life, it still stands and hold-on. A kind of love that could never be bought nor sold, a love that is not self seeking, a love that should be possessed by all!

            But, what happen with the love that you’ve learned in the bible? Why is that it’s very difficult to possess and continue possessing it. You have in your mind that love is not enough, yes indeed! You learned that in the hard way. You’ve given love that is supposed to thrive but at the end, it easily fades. What you learned was that if a person is not willing to accept the love you’ve given, don’t give it to them. Because that love is wasted and will only be trampled upon by the people you choose to love. As it was written, “Do not give your precious necklace to a pig because there is no value in it for the pig, it will just be trampled and stepped upon.” Let yourself find a person that is worthy for it, the kind of person that will cherish it with all his heart. There are only few people with that kind of integrity that will give itself wholeheartedly for the preservation of their bond. Many have tried, hoping that it will last. But most of them failed. If a person find him/herself a good partner, then one should never waste it and take it for granted. Cherish it since it’s a wonderful thing.

Love is not a game; it’s a serious matter that involves a lifetime of a person’s life. It cannot be returned nor bartered. But for those who tell that love is just a game, those are the brilliant people who know how to respond and control emotion. Who thought they can manipulate and control other people emotion and their own selves. It’s not so much a bad thing because we need not to give it all, for as we all know... there is no certainty in this world. The world is not constant, it always changes, a feeling can change, flames can get cold and love of man often fade and sometimes replaced with hate. Yet, to those who give it all, I wish good favor to you! You have invested all your treasures in the uncertainty of tomorrow. Indeed, only God knows the future of man and himself. It is a challenge to give all hope, faith and trust to a human, prone to mistakes. Well, it is the cost of love, to give trust and confidence with confidence and no reservation. I admired the people who give it all! Who has all integrity and no partiality. Those people are brave because they took the challenge of giving it all not knowing what might happen in the future. There are people who tried and give it all, sometimes they fail at the first or second attempt, but at the end, those people who give their best will eventually fall into the best partner they could ever have.